The closer it got to my due date the more nervous I became about when I would go into labor. During the last month of my pregnancy my doctor had me come into the office each week to check how my body was preparing for the delivery. And each visit I would be asked if I was feeling any contractions. And every time my answer was, “No, I don’t feel anything” My doctor would tell me that I’m not dilating and that my pelvic bone wasn’t softening much or widening up to prepare for the delivery. That was a cause for concern because that could mean that I would have the baby later than my due date. This would be a problem if the baby is over 2 weeks late. At that point the baby would be very big and their would be risks to the mother and baby during delivery. So 2 weeks before my due date the doctor reached in and broke a membrane within my vagina to help my body move along in preparing to deliver. Because we had a chance of a late delivery our doctor suggested we pick a date to induce labor just in case. So we picked a date 6 days after the due date.
But our baby decided to come 5 days early. And this is how it went…..
It was a sunny and cold sunday. And like every sunday my husband and I went to church. After service our pastor asked us when our due date was and we said,”This coming friday.” After church we went home to clean the house and to set up the baby’s crib. We were sure that the baby was going to be late like the doctor told us but we decided to put the crib together and clean the house before my mother flew in, to help when the baby was born. During the afternoon I felt like I was constipated so I went to the bathroom and nothing. A few hours later I felt like I needed to go again but nothing. And a few more hours later same thing yet nothing. Jokingly, I said to my husband, ” Wouldn’t it be funny if these were contractions?” My husband’s reply was, “That’s a scary thought. Don’t say things like that. I’m not mentally ready yet for that to happen”.
That night I couldn’t go to sleep. I kept having these slight pains in my stomach. As the night progressed I started to think maybe I was having false contractions.So I just stayed in bed and tried to get some sleep. But the pains kept coming and they were getting more painful. By the time it was 4 in the morning I figured I would take a shower just in case I was really in labor and had to go to the hospital. It’s now 7AM and I haven’t slept a wink. And it is time for my husband to get up and go to work. When he wakes up I tell him that I’m not sure if I am in labor or not. But I really didn’t want to go to the hospital because I was certain that they would just send me home. But we decided that to be safe we would go in and get checked.
We got to the hospital at 8:30AM. Even while we were going to the hospital I was certain I was having false contractions because I wasn’t feeling much pain at all now, and the contractions were still irregular. When the nurse checked me she said “You are 5 centimeters dilated, you are definitely having this baby today.” One needs to be 10 centimeters dilated to give birth. And I was already half way there. Being dilated means that your vagina has opened up so that the baby can pass through. I could not believe what I was hearing. I was 5 days early and my doctor was worried that I would be late. The next thing the nurse asked me was, ” Do you want the epidural now or later?” I thought about it for a minute and then I got this huge wave of pain. So I said, “I’ll get it now.”
Around 3:00PM I was fully dilated and ready to start pushing. The nurse was trying to get my husband involved and asked him if he could help but he was too nervous that he couldn’t even respond to her questions. He just stood by the window on the other side of the room, almost having a panic attack. The nurse asked him, “Are you ok? Have a seat. Do you need a drink? I don’t need another patient here.” So it was just me and the nurse. The nurse would tell me when I was having my contractions so that I could push. I couldn’t feel when the contractions were coming because I was numb hip down from the epidural. One thing I did not expect was to throw up while giving birth. I know that sounds gross but at least it was just water cause I had nothing to throw up. I think it was the epidural that was making me feel nauseous. Strong stuff. I had a similar experience with percoset which is a strong pain reliever. When the nurse could see the baby’s head that’s when they called for the doctor to receive the baby. The doctor came and our daughter Mirinae was born at 5 pounds 13 ounces and 19 inches. The doctor looked over to my husband to ask if he wanted to cut the umbilical cord but the nurse said, “Don’t ask him.” I’m sure just by looking at the state my husband was in the doctor could see why the nurse would say that. It was exciting and surreal what I had just gone through. Even so cause it ended so fast. I only had to push 9 times or so before our daughter was born. She was born at 3:45 PM. I didn’t have any overwhelming feelings as I thought I would have. It might have been because I was drugged up with stuff but as you can imagine my husband was crying and thanking me.
When I finally held our daughter for the first time it was again, surreal and amazing. She was so tiny and so wrinkle free. Hahaha.. probably because she was born so small. That was 2 years ago.
I am pregnant again with our second child now and he is due February 12, 2013. I wonder how this time around will go. My husband thinks that our second baby will be born before his due date too. When I asked him if he’s going to be more supportive this time he said that he thinks he’ll freak out again. 4 weeks left! We’ll see.